|Movies like "The Hangover" have given us a warped idea of bachelor parties|
So like any other wedding enthusiast I'm a frequent visitor of weddingbee
(In case you've never visited wedding bee, it is a top wedding forum where real life brides exchange ideas from wedding planning to advice. Some of the posts are funny, some even embarrassing but of course most of the posts are helpful especially if you are planning a wedding).
So on one of the boards in the forum, a bride-to-be was venting about her fiance's bachelor party. The story goes somewhat like this-
Apparently bride-to-be and fiance live together and planned their bachelor/bachelorette party on the same day. Fiance had asked her permission to use their house which she agreed to, setting her boundaries. The boundaries were that the party will not extend beyond the sitting room and there will be no strippers. Fiance agrees promising it was going to be just a fun guys hang out with booze, sports and loads of laughter. She later got to find out through one of the groomsmen's wives, who hacked into her husband's facebook account, that her husband had arranged for strippers to be at the bachelor's party.
|A scene from a bachelor's party|
For me this definitely is a deal breaker... WTH
Angrily, she confronted her fiance who admitted that there were strippers involved. Upon further probing, he confessed to having strippers in their bedroom, on their bed. He also admitted that he had several lap dances and one of the guys even had a 'private' session with one of the strippers. Obviously we all know it didn't end at a lap dance (my 2 cents though). Bride-to-be feels disrespected. It is only a day to her wedding and she is considering calling it off.
Question then is- I've heard guys insist on having a bachelor party and details of it are usually kept really quiet from their fiancee, the bachelor party is 'the last hoorah' before settling down to their forever-after -marriage to their wife. Would you as a woman, especially when you trust your man, agree to letting him have a bachelor's party, an x-rated one at that, because not letting him have one will make him feel deprived and make you look bad to all his friends?, or would you let him have it then follow the "don't ask, don't tell principle". Does it bring up trust issues?
For the guys, does it really mean nothing? is it really as innocent as y'all want us to believe? Is it worth risking your marriage for?
Please share your thoughts